The dream crusher: Casa by the Sea (Nothern Mexico)

In the more or less lawless part of Mexico not so far from where Mogens Amdi Petersen is hiding the Danish authorities in his own city, there once existed a boarding school named “Casa by the Sea”. When you read the Internet you easily recognize it as a kind of dream-crusher for teenagers while it existed.

Even considering the low standard of policing and supervision in Mexico back in 2004 it became too much for the authorities and they closed the school down.

School is too much a word to address this place. Most would say that it basically was a prison used by parents who got some children and found other interests in life so they needed a place where they could dump their children until they became 18 and could be escorted to the nearest homeless shelter.

Yes. It was a strange kind of parenting but it was what happened.

Now when I was reading more about the incident at Randolph High School I wrote about in my last blog entry, I stumbled over a blog where the place is suspected to be haunted. I do not know about ghosts. A lot of the former students have apparently committed suicide because they could not handle the post-traumatic stress condition they got as result of their stay at this school but too my knowledge none actually died there. Can a ghost exist at another place than the one where it died? If Yes, the place is certainly haunted. You can read more here:

Haunted places

It is even placed over a list of 1000 places you do not want to be as a teenager.

4. Casa by the Sea in Mexico

I understand why when I read the page a young woman has made about the school:

Casa by the Sea

I cannot see that it could have done good for anybody. It is so anti-humane as it could have been. It is really something I would have expected to see in Iran or Somalia. Imagine having all your life ahead of you where the teenage years are the one where you can party and enjoy life before you realize that the government has cut early retirement leaving you with no lifegoal in life and the government also have cut students grants because people come into your country from the outside to be fed so there are no money left for the education system. Then you parents need time for a cruise so they lock you up and then they come back from the cruise they decide that they like peace in their home more than the money to lock you up.

Basically you life is then wasted because those good years with party and classmates will never come back.

Yes. Casa by the Sea was definately a dream crusher.

Disgrunted girlfriend

I had a difficult time understanding what have been wrong with my girlfriend lately. Normally dinner was ready. My clothes were washed etc.

Suddenly she lied drunk in bed when I came home or was just sleeping. She stayed up all night playing Sims. She didn’t care about herself. She didn’t bath. She smelled really bad.

I was thinking about getting her committed. Then I spoke to her parents and I understood. It was about that time of the year she started at the boarding school. Every year since she had period where she was depressed and unwilling to do anything – even go out of the bed unless she had to go to the bathroom. She managed to lose a lot of weight and it looked very unhealthy.

It has been a struggle. I started to cook. I started to clean. Slowly she reverted to her old self after a month. Now we are happy again. However she had me worried a lot and I remembered how much I loved her.

Met a girl friend

I met a girl and she moved in a couple of weeks ago.

She is a very quiet girl. She doesn’t like to be among people very much. She doesn’t like conflicts. Most of the time she plays Sims and stays up very late to do that.

She enjoys wine a little too much for her own good but because she is such a nice person it is something I have decided to accept.

In the start I wondered why she wanted to be alone and home all the time. I took the liberty to look at her blog. She had a kind of bad boarding school experience which have left her disapointed regarding other people.

It is a kind of dream-woman. I am so much i love. She doesn’t mind that I am out with the boys. As long as I only gain appetite in town and eats home it is fine with her as she says.

I am happy that I stayed at home

I made the choice to remain in Denmark when my father took the job in the United States some years ago. There is not one moment that I regret having taken this decision. I had such a fine time here partying with friends and enjoying life in general.

Whenever I doubt my decision, I just have to think about Diamond Ranch Academy in Utah near some town called Hurricane which is hard to locate.

There they have a kind of lockdown boarding school. The teenagers cannot go into town and enjoy a beer. That sounds like a real jail to me.

Now two boys died while they were living at the boarding school. Now the boarding school administration is hunting people who speak out against it.

Learning about the torment former students from Diamond Ranch Academy had experienced makes my happiness about having remained in Denmark bigger.

This place should close.

I hope that my posting about the school makes it more possible that they one day close the school.

Option 1 out of 2. None is optimal

I have a number of options I shall consider now where I had time to swallow the news.

I have a girlfriend. I have good friends and we have some awful parties.

Now I was risking being send to live thousand of kilometers from all I have known for my entire life.

But there is an option. I could attend a boarding school instead. In Denmark we have something you call “Efterskole”, which are used by families who dislike the Danish way of living but have been prevented from sending their children to a middle east country where they are supposed to get to love Osama and hate Obama.

Our government has stopped most of this trafic and the social services will remove the children if a parent are caught thinking about that. There are even some parents serving two years of prison one time after another until their children are returned to Denmark. I believe that one parent has served 10 years in jail so far on that account.

Our government had to offer an alternative and then the “efterskole” with their no alcohol and at some schools even a no tobacco rule are seemed to be a good alternative even if they are Christians.

The schools are also attended by some who have special hobbies and even some who are sent there as a kind of alternative sentences.

I could take the 10th form there and then start in High School if my father doesn’t get his contract extended after the first year.

I could sleep at my grandparents or at friends in the weekends so I could get something to drink and not be odd.

But still it would be a hell of a lot of life to miss out.

It is not good.